Relaxation as the ultimate spiritual state

April 20, 2007

I used to feel that relaxation was a somewhat insignificant by-product of meditation. Although I desperately needed to learn to relax when I started meditation, I needed to see myself as a seeker of enlightenment rather than the stressed out person that I was. For years I thought of meditation in very “lofty” terms. It wasn’t until I was recording our Pure Relaxation CD that it began to dawn on me that to be able to be totally relaxed is the ultimate sign of spiritual maturity.

Being able to relax is a reflection of everything that we seek spiritually. Think about what you are seeking on your spiritual path. How would relaxation fit into that picture? When I reflect on what I’ve longing for over the years, they are all the same as the ability to be totally relaxed. I’ve wanted to feel a sense of trust. How can you relax without trust? I’ve wanted to feel peace. If you are at peace, you are relaxed. I wanted spontaneity and freedom — can these occur without relaxation?

Relaxation happens when there is an absence of tension and holding. It happens in surrender. It happens when we let go. The sense that we have to defend ourselves or be guarded in any way is gone. When we are really relaxed, we are open and intimate with everything. There is no more self and other, there is only one.

Can you remember a time when you were totally relaxed? Would you see that as a spiritual experience?


2 Responses to “Relaxation as the ultimate spiritual state”

  1. pastcustomer on April 20th, 2007 8:47 pm

    Yeah, the way I see it is in order for me to be relaxed I need to be in a state of complete acceptance. Acceptance of myself, of my life, of where I am at the present moment, etc.

    When I can get there it feels great, but most times it happens when I’m not trying to make it happen, possibly when driving, possibly while excercising. It has much less to do with my surroundings than I used to think it would.

    I previously thought that if I went up on a mountain top or on some secluded beach I could reach a state of relaxation more easily. This hasn’t proven to be true. If anything, it is more difficult because of my pre-defined expectations.

  2. Mary on April 21st, 2007 2:08 pm

    Thanks for commenting — I really resonate with what you say.

    Relaxation does seem to go along with acceptance. In fact, how could we really be relaxed when we are not accepting ourselves and life, or when we have “pre-defined expectations”?

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