I want this experience every time I meditate!

February 18, 2007

It’s hard to imagine that anyone who has ever meditated has not felt this at one time or another. We are sitting in meditation and everything feels so perfect. We may describe the experience in different ways — peace, calm, silence, bliss, love — but whatever we call it we want it forever! We want it every time we meditate. And then we sit to meditate and begin to look for it and when it’s not there, we try to get it back. Perhaps we have a theory about how we “got there” before, and yet despite all our efforts, it isn’t happening.

We feel we’ve lost the knack. We’re failing. Yet the more we look for that special experience and the more we try the worse we feel. Apparently all our best efforts can’t get us back there. And if we can see the obvious, we’ll see that our efforts didn’t get us there in the first place!

So many times in my local guided meditation group, people will say something like this — “When I started meditation it seemed like I’d never settle down. It seemed hopeless and I said to myself, ‘oh well, this just isn’t going to work today’. The next thing I knew, I went so deep!” Once they had given up, the mind shifted into a meditative state on its own. And that’s the “trick” of it. A meditative state happens when we stop trying to make it happen. It happens when we let go of attachment to “good experiences”. It happens when we are in a state of non-resistance, not trying to stop whatever is naturally happening and not trying to create something in its place.

How do we stop trying? We certainly can’t try to stop trying, but a kind of backing off can happen when we see that we are caught up in the effort of trying to get somewhere. As we practice meditation more and more, self awareness can grow. Having guidance can help, and guided meditation can be helpful as well.

What has been helpful for you? Share your experiences and comments!


6 Responses to “I want this experience every time I meditate!”

  1. Suresh Gundappa on February 20th, 2007 9:38 am


    One of the first hurdles for a meditator is “expectations on experience”. People expect magic out of meditation and want to experience magic in meditation.

    Meditation is when “experiencer and experiencing” dissolve into experience. In other words it’s state of NO impressions. Only mind can form experience and Meditation is beyond mind.

    Lovely post.

  2. Mary on February 20th, 2007 12:32 pm

    Thank you for visiting again, Suresh. It feels as if you echo what I say in such a clear, concise and beautiful way!

  3. naturalhigh on February 21st, 2007 1:32 pm

    I use meditation to let go of tension, worry, doubt, fear, all the stuff that keeps me stuck and unable to be fully present. I use many different forms of meditation – not the same one for months on end. Sometimes a walking meditation or Sufi dancing can release emotions best. Sometimes getting deeply into my pottery work. Throwing pots is a great meditation. So my best tip is to continually learn and grow and expand your awareness of techniques, and after awhile, develop your own.

  4. Mary on February 22nd, 2007 11:12 am

    Thanks for your comment, naturalhigh. I’m going to write a post using this comment because it’s so rich.

  5. remy on July 10th, 2008 4:30 pm

    OMG thank you..that was the thing i was looking for…everytime i tried meditating nothing happened…thank you so much

  6. Mary on July 11th, 2008 8:58 am

    You are so welcome, remy! Mary

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